Archive for March, 2011

Post #138: Be it comedy or tragedy

Sunday, March 27th, 2011

All fathers are invisible in daytime; daytime is ruled by mothers and fathers come out at night.
– Margaret Atwood
He didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.
– Clarence Budington Kelland

Dear son,

I haven’t even had you, let alone fully committed to bringing you into this life. I wanted to be sure before I did so. I’ve actually thwarted your existence for a long time… because I didn’t think the world was good enough to have you.

I’ve had an odd childhood — as we all have had — and I wanted to be sure that I wasn’t subjecting you to as ironic a fate as the rest of us have had to face.

I’ve searched for highs and lows, and I’ve subjected myself to as many painful and scarring situations as I could stomach, in the hopes that I could come back to you with enough knowledge to save yourself from the cruelty of the world.

In the end, what I’ve learned is that every person is the hero of their own story. However, in the story of the world — be it comedy or tragedy — we’re all partners. It’s up to each person to decide what that means to them, and how to balance this perfectly natural imbalance between the ego and reality.

What you want can be what you get, son, but how else to prove it to you but by doing it myself?
Now, I’ve got to write granddad. I’m having some trouble finding your mother. ;)

Love,
Dad =B~)

P.S. I’ve had many father figures. Some of them have been teachers. Some of them have been co-workers. However, most of them have been musicians, with a few novelists in between. In a bigger sense, no couple has ever been alone in raising their children, and the world has just been one big global village. Thank goodness for that.

Post #137: Heavy Handed Language With Light Hearted Interpretations

Friday, March 18th, 2011

Let’s not become so worried about not offending anybody that we lose the ability to distinguish between respect and paranoia. ~Larry King, about political correctness, How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere: The Secrets of Good Communication

Dear Alice,

I’m starting to realize that corporate language just sounds scary, but deep down inside, it’s actually very reasonable. There’s a lot of common sense that goes into evaluations. I remember when at my old job, we would have mid-year perfomance evaluations, and the template was made for those who work in the field, as opposed to the ones in Head Office. It would be a nightmare for me. I’m a programmer! How do you measure the performance of a programmer? It’s the things I build that do the performing, not I.

Boring. I know. What do you want from me? I’m a programmer. That’s how I make a living. Doing the boring stuff so you don’t have to.

Music? Well, I’ve another show for the 15th of April. After all this SongCrib stuff, I’m getting better at wrapping up songs. Of course, I’m still refining, and doubting myself, but they’re getting better. I think it’s time I start making my presense known.

Even the famous folk end up with their songs on YouTube for free. What do I need to do so that I can release my songs without losing them? Register, register, register. I hear that a song uploaded on YouTube is already under copyright, but it wouldn’t hurt to double check. So, that’s the next step for me.

David =B~)

P.S. I’ve got a friend who pushes my buttons. All of them. The good ones, the bad ones, the frustrating ones. It’s a struggle to keep them in my life, because sometimes, it feels like the smartest thing I could do is let them go. Why should I keep them around? Why am I so compelled to keep them around? A friend isn’t someone who pushes your buttons. It’s worse when they aren’t even intending to do it! I must be a sucker for punishment! Sigh…. How do you keep someone like that around, without one of us getting hurt eventually? Please tell me it’s possible. Please say I can shut these buttons down when they’re around. (I swear I’ll figure this one out.)

Post #136: Back to Business

Wednesday, March 2nd, 2011

Dear Alice,

The last SongCrib session really got me going again. I had a good talk with the creator of the sessions, Lily Cheng, and she’s put me in touch with a number of activities going on in the music world. By the end of the night, I was finally convinced to join the Songwriter’s Association of Canada, as well as to start using their services.

Lily invited a special guest to come along to tonight’s SongCrib event. This was the first time - in my opinion - that I got to meet someone actually living the dream. Meghan Morrison came to talk about us about a book that got her career jump-started, called “Music Business Success in Nine Weeks“, which essentially outlines a nine week boot camp for launching one’s career. She didn’t come to plug the book for any other reason than it worked for her and she’s grateful. Awesome.

So, Lily is getting a group together to make it through the nine weeks. I’m still humming and hawing about it, which is a childish thing to do, in my opinion. I have to get this music stuff out of my system, or I’ll die a bitter old man. No regrets, right? Augh!

Wish me luck,
David =B~)

P.S. Growing up had better be worth it. All the grown ups that I know always complain about it. If there’s one thing I can’t stand, it’s a hypocrite. Like, honestly, if marriage is such a pain, then why don’t you recommend to people NOT to get married? And if work sucks so hard, then why don’t you recommend to people to become wild animals? And if life is a big pain in the ass, then why don’t you recommend that we all just blow ourselves up in one big nuclear blast? NO. Stop whining, and make something of yourself. You’re not dead yet, man.